Who doesn’t want to be a winner in the game of life? Unfortunately, winning isn’t easy, especially when you’re on your own.
If you look behind the success of your favorite athletes, beloved artists, and most admired business professionals, you’ll find they all have something in common: Someone, at some time, helped them get where they are.
Invariably, ambitious people who truly want to win have an experienced source of support working with them, bringing out the very best of all their talents, and putting them to use so they can perform to their full potential.
This person, on whom they rely for their ultimate success, is a coach.
Often, people confuse the role of a life coach with that of a therapist. (Click here to read my recent article comparing therapy to life coaching.)
The truth is, not everyone needs psychotherapy. If you feel you are a relatively high functioning person, free of depression, anxiety, and other mental health challenges, therapy may not be for you. Still, that doesn’t mean you don’t have the right to seek out guidance in life.
That’s where a life coach comes in.
Maybe you need help identifying your life path or prioritizing your goals so you can be happy, but you don’t need psychotherapy. Or, you’ve completed therapy, but you still want someone in your life to help you stay on track.
An executive coach can help you improve your sales performance, your productivity, and your leadership skills. A health coach can help you get in shape, eat right, and establish a daily exercise routine. There are countless other kinds of coaches specializing in other areas of your professional and personal life.
Life coaches are different, though, and in many ways, they are far more effective.
A life coach will help you get all of your life in balance.
Although your life coach won’t tell you what to do or how to do it, the best ones know exactly how to get you to make clear decisions about what matters most in your life, and from there, offer feedback and support as you pursue your dreams and achieve your goals.
How can a life coach help you reach your goals and turn your dreams into reality? Here are four major areas of your life a coach can help you improve:
Getting a job and keeping up with the competition in your field is incredibly tough. You want to be the best at what you do, but you also want to be there for your family, your partner, your friends, and the people who mean so much to you.
If you’re sick of missing important moments with loved ones, or worse yet, don’t even have enough “me time” to go out on a date, you need a coach.
You and your coach will work together to ensure that you keep up with the demands of your profession, and develop enough love for you so there is enough time for making connections in the world outside of work.
Every time you find someone new, does it feel like déjà vu? If your relationship patterns are in a downward spiral of loss and disappointment, it’s time to get the help of a coach.
Maybe you go out of your way to please others, or settle for the first person to come along. Or, you could be looking for love in all the wrong places, enmeshing yourself with people who’ll never provide the emotional support you deserve.
You might already be in a relationship, and feel like you’re not getting all the rewards you thought you would or should. It’s hard to relate to somebody else when you don’t have your own act together.
Your coach will help you make changes and create healthy relationship behavior.
A life coach will help you focus on your needs, and train you as you develop ways to ask for them. From there, you’ll be able to build (and rebuild) relationships that add joy to your life.
Whether you’re developing better management structures in a corporation or working on your second bestselling novel, creative blocks can be a paralyzing, crippling problem. Your coach can help you remove the obstacles that are keeping you from producing your next masterpiece.
Through relaxation, creative visualization, and lifting the restrictions you place before yourself, a life coach can help you enter a state of mind known as neuroplasticity. At this level of consciousness, your ideas will flow almost effortlessly, and the ecstatic sensation of creation and invention will be yours again.
It’s not uncommon to go through life gaining all the outer appearances of success, but feeling like there is something missing. Many people can’t seem to gain enough traction to make their way in the world.
In both cases, a life coach can help like few other helping professionals can.
By asking you the right questions, and then allowing you to identify your skills and values, your coach will give you the freedom to choose your path to happiness. Working together, you can revive the passion you thought you had lost, and live the meaningful, purposeful life you always knew you could.
These are just some of the many ways a life coach can help you win at life according to your own terms. There are many more.
If you want to go out there and live life to the fullest, the way you know you were always supposed to, start by learning more about life coaching.
We write regularly about life coaching and other ways to improve your life on our blog.