Success. It’s something we all say we want, but what happens when people get in their own way? Most therapists see clients who say they want to be prosperous and get recognition at work and other areas of life, but there seem to be “blocks” that get in the way of their success. This strange phenomenon often stops therapists from being as successful as they’d like to be, as well.
What makes people uneasy about achieving all the things they say they want? To find the answer to this question, it’s useful to know what kinds of attributes contribute to a person’s possible success. This article from Psychology Today sums it up succinctly and insightfully.
Before we get into these positive traits, let’s address a very important item: how does the average person measure success? The first thing many people think of is “making lots of money,” but is that really how successful people think? Brad Klontz, PsyD., the author of the aforementioned Psychology Today article, says that truly successful people are focused on other things. To them, money is just a tool, not the “end game” that is the true measure of their achievement.
Indeed, there is a difference between hedonic, or material/sensation-based, and eudaimonic, or inner, well being. This sense of meaning is an essential component of the successful person’s make up, and often overshadows the desire to merely accumulate material possessions.
According to Klontz’ research, successful people have a very balanced view of money. They don’t have strong feelings about it, as in “love” or “hate,” and they don’t use it as the sole measure of their success. Being rich or poor doesn’t make a person “good” or “bad,” and successful people realize that and act accordingly.
What else, besides this healthy relationship with money, do successful people have in common? Here are some items on Klontz’ list:
Openness: the ease of accepting change and the willingness to have new experiences seems to make people more likely to achieve. Along with this comes intellectual curiosity and the desire to learn new things.
Internal locus of control: When people believe they are responsible for what “happens” in their lives, they tend to take charge and make sure that things get done. This attitude also helps people to avoid feeling as though they are a “victim,” and promotes more assertive, self-affirming behavior.
A drive to succeed: People who achieve have reasons for what they do. Often, this is a passion to do well at work that is meaningful and purposeful. An internal drive such as this is far more reliable than any motivation that might come from doing it “for” someone.
Money awareness: While money isn’t usually a motivating factor for most successful people, it is, as noted above, a tool. Successful people keep an eye on their money, and ensure they don’t spend it frivolously. They also value their services and ask clients to pay them accordingly.
Hard work: There is no substitute for this! Although there is a school of thought that teaches that visualization is all that is necessary in order to achieve, this is probably an exaggeration. Visualization can certainly help, but hard work is a key ingredient that must go into any successful endeavor.
Conscientiousness: This trait is evidenced by reliability and self-discipline. People who achieve their goals realize that discipline is the simple act of remembering what you want. When you are aware of what you need to do, there is no reason to do anything else. Or is there?
With the idea of what it takes to be successful in mind, let’s turn now into why people might be under-motivated. If a person wants to be totally in control, with no desire to embrace change, there will be impediments to their success. When people believe they’re a “victim,” or that outside forces get in their way, it’s going to be hard for them to reach their goals.
These and other subconscious, erroneous notions, such as there’s no use in trying, or an inability to manage money or practice self-discipline, will make success more elusive. Still, it’s possible to overcome these difficulties. To do so, it’s necessary to bring the unconscious, erroneous thoughts to the surface, and reframe them.
A long, arduous course of talk therapy could help to change the way a client thinks, but there is a faster and more effective way to do this. Hypnotherapy allows clients to identify feeling they have about themselves, and go back to the source of the opinions they have formed about their capabilities, and the decisions they’ve made about their behavior.
Hypnotherapy gives clients the ability to find out why they are under-motivated, and offers tools to help them stop undermining themselves. This is achieved by taking someone who might believe they are a victim, and regressing them back to a situation where this idea first came into being. The client can be invited to see the situation from a different perspective; one that allows them to take back their own power and reclaim that internal locus of control.
Similarly, a client’s lack of openness can be remedied by allowing them to go back to an earlier time when they might have felt so out of control that they developed an unhealthy need to avoid change, leading to a lack of openness and a resistance to seeing their problems from new perspectives.
Hypnotherapy addresses core emotions such as anger, fear, loneliness, sadness, hurt, jealousy, and shame. The hypnotherapy session gives clients the opportunity to process these emotions, so they no longer have any unconscious influence on them. There is a corrective experience, where the younger version of the client can tell that cruel teacher or school bully that they have no right to treat them that way. The client can reclaim parts of their being, such as personal power, self-esteem, or dignity.
The deep emotional nature of Heart-Centered Hypnotherapy™ produces powerful results. Clients can become more enlightened about the reasons why they sabotage themselves, and affirm new beliefs and behaviors that will correct the problem, so they can finally fully enjoy success in their lives.
Hypnotherapy is an amazing tool for clients, and it can work wonders for your clients—and for you! When you enroll in the Six Day Hypnotherapy Training and Certification Course, you’ll learn about hypnosis and how it is different from hypnotherapy. Then, you’ll see how hypnotherapy is used to help solve a variety of issues, from codependency and chemical dependency to eating disorders and relationship addictions.
From there, hands-on experiential sessions with your peers give you two opportunities to experience hypnotherapy as a client, therapist, and observer. Experienced, Certified Heart-Centered Hypnotherapists will be there to supervise and assist you along the way. By the end of the six-day program, you’ll be ready to conduct hypnotherapy sessions and earn your certification by completing your practice sessions.
Hypnotherapy is a powerful tool for your clients, and it’s useful for you as a therapist, as well. If you struggle with achieving the success you desire, and suspect that you need to reframe old and faulty beliefs, you can heal your own self-sabotaging tendencies with hypnotherapy, and experience a fully successful life.
So many of our Six-Day graduates appreciate the healing they experience in the short training and certification program, they move on to deeper learning and personal transformation with our advanced programs, which include Internship, Personal Transformation Intensive Leadership, and Mentorship. It’s also possible to earn CE credit as you continue your journey at The Wellness Institute.
The Wellness Institute offers a fast and fascinating way for you to become a certified hypnotherapist, and to continue your learning and healing so you can fully experience the joys of success. Classes are filling up fast, so don’t wait.