There are many issues with which Heart Centered Hypnotherapy® can be very effective. When someone is facing death, it is vital that they do in-depth work as early as possible. Some of the issues to be addressed are (1) completing unfinished business with family, friends and co-workers; (2) asking for forgiveness and self-forgiveness for any perceived wrong-doings; (3) releasing pent-up emotions that may be locked in the body; (4) releasing attachments that may be preventing them from letting go of life on earth; (6) reconnecting disowned parts of themselves including their soul; and (7) developing or maintaining a strong spiritual connection.
Let's take each one of these issues by itself to examine it further to see why Heart-Centered Hypnotherapy is such an effective tool.
Most people have not been given the tools during their lifetimes to communicate directly with friends and family members. In the trance state, their inhibitions and defenses are lowered so that they can speak their truth to their loved ones, and their “not-so-loved ones.” Within the privacy of their session, they can fully express all that they feel without worrying that they will hurt anyone’s feelings. Through this work they can also get clear if there is actually anything that needs to be said in person to complete this relationship. Often releasing the feelings is all that is needed; speaking them directly to the person involved is not necessary. This is most important since it is often this unfinished business that keeps people emotionally “hanging on” to life when their body is in extreme pain and is ready to go.
Many people carry hidden guilt around with them for their perceived wrong doings during their lifetime. When they are facing death, this guilt can result in self-punishment and prolonged and unnecessary suffering. This is a personal issue as well as a spiritual issue. They need to ask whomever it is that they have wronged to forgive them as well as to ask God. This work needs to be done on the subconscious level since that is where all the self-blame is stored. And then it is important, of course, to have a deep conversation with themselves to release the guilt.
When people repress emotions in their bodies, these emotions block and drain their vital supply of energy. This energy is so important especially when they are often drugged for pain control. Also as they release the emotions, they become much more clear about what they may need to communicate in person. Emotions such as deep grief, anger, and resentment keep them locked in their bodies, unable to “let go”.
Hospitals, nursing homes and hospice homes are filled with people who are ready to die but who can not “let go”. Attachments to people with whom they have unfinished business keep them hanging on for months and years. This causes the agony of unnecessary suffering on the part of the caregivers as well as the dying person. All attachments need to be released so that the individual is finally freed from any “hooks” that are keeping them in their suffering bodies.
Often during the lifetime of an individual there have been certain traumas such as abuse, accidents, natural disasters, or major illness. During those times, a commonly used method of self-protection is dissociation or disconnection from self. When a part has dissociated or split off from the whole, people sometimes describe it as “I feel empty inside” or “Ever since that time, I just don’t feel like myself.” Another common experience is described by the familiar song, “I Left My Heart in San Francisco.”
As part of the dying experience, it is important for individuals to go back and reclaim disowned parts of themselves. Whatever their experience, such as the loss of their heart, their soul, or a specific part of themselves, the clinical hypnotherapist is in an excellent position to help the client reclaim these disowned parts. It is very common, once the person has access to their subconscious mind to be able to go back to where the part split off and to reclaim it. This integration process often is a powerful spiritual and emotional healing for the person.
This is by far the most important work for the dying patient to address. And because Heart-Centered Hypnotherapy naturally guides them onto the spiritual plane, it is obviously a powerful tool to use. Some people are already very clear about the spiritual connection and so the trance work can be used to further deepen that connection.
Another group of people know they have some spiritual connection, but perhaps they have not really had the motivation to clarify it previously. Obviously this is the time to get into full spiritual contact and to address the spiritual issues such as forgiveness and where do I go from here? The Heart-Centered Hypnotherapy will assist them in discovering through visualization and directly experiencing who or what their spiritual connection is. They may see or feel Jesus, the Divine Mother, Buddha, White Light, the Great Spirit, or the feeling of Unconditional Love. It is important in these situations for the hypnotherapist to feel comfortable with spirituality and not to impose any specific religious doctrine onto the client. This work is not about religion, but rather to assist the client to discover what feels right for them.
The third group of clients that you may encounter may have denounced God, religion and spirituality all their lives. But as they begin to face death, suddenly these issues begin to take on new urgency. Through hypnotherapy, the client may suddenly begin to have spiritual experiences. It is important to support them and encourage them to accept that it is not too late to develop this relationship. When we are facing death, things that never seemed important before suddenly take on a very deep importance.
It is important to educate people about what they will experience in death. It is extremely beneficial to describe to them reports of people who have had near-death experiences (NDE). This should be done both on the subconscious level in hypnosis and on the conscious level as well. This will demystify death for them and also relieve the fear that most people carry about dying. They need instructions about how important it is to go directly into the light and not to cling to their dying body or to another person on earth. This will help them have a peaceful journey instead of becoming a tortured or energy-draining earthbound disincarnate.
Another powerful aspect of this work is, of course, to do this work with close family members as well. They need to also finish their business with the dying person and “let go” so that they do not inadvertently keep their loved one in his/her body longer than necessary. Also they need to pray and visualize the person moving into the light and being greeted by an appropriate spiritual connection to “take them across.” When family members are educated in this way, their assistance can have a profound effect on the dying experience. In this way they are all working together, sometimes for the first time, to create a healthy release for everyone concerned.
Doing this kind of in-depth healing with someone facing death is sacred and poignantly fulfilling.